No parent starts off knowing what to do...

I remember when I first had my baby, I used to joke with people, saying, “I really need a manual!” I think deep down, I just wanted things to be easy and straightforward. But of course, things didn’t always go as planned, and every cry or demand from the baby made me feel tense and anxious.

I grew up in an authoritarian family, and it shaped who I am today — disconnected from myself, always trying to please others, lacking clear boundaries, a perfectionist… you name it! It’s no surprise that “control” has become my default response. But deep down, I long for connection, peace, and joy in my relationship with my children.

Still, there’s this inherited voice in my mind: “Your kids need boundaries” , “Parents must be loving but also authoritative”, “Punishments are necessary”. And I wonder — if I let go of those ideas, what do I replace them with? I don’t want to become permissive either!

Yes, we need to ask deeper questions: what is my value? what do I believe? How do I feel? what is my fears? ......when we parent our children without working through our own history and fears, we are destined to repeat painful patterns we ourselves experienced as children, or listen to others' advice unconsciously……

Healing

Heal the wounds you experienced as a child, so your children don’t have to

Trust

Create a relationship with your children based on trust, connection and collaboration

Harmony

Experience peace, harmony and mutual understanding with your children

Motherhood shouldn’t be so hard

But sometimes it is

Another unexpected sibling fight, “I don’t like you Mum”, “I can’t walk, carry me”, emotional explosion from nowhere, hard to leave home, shout, hit, endless screen time, you name it!

Sometimes, motherhood or parenthood brings us lots of feelings, it is OK to feel, you are human! You can’t hide from it, nor run from it, when you go through it with love, it will change you inside out!

And there is always hope no matter what your relationship with your children looks like right now!

"Thank you, Ma Yue, your parenting coaching sessions have truly helped me a lot- practically and meaningfully, it opened up a whole new world for me in terms of how to connect with my children, how to respect my children, to trust them, and to stay curious about who they are."

-Wang Xue

Hi! I'm Ma Yue

I'm a Chinese mum currently embracing unschooling in the UK. I grew up in Northeast China, and Mandarin is my first language!

I created this space because I longed for a more meaningful connection with my children—rooted in mutual respect, trust, connection, and bravery to living in the present! I chose the Chinese Taoism words “Wu Wei”, which means letting go of control, be flexible, and go with flow under the greater natural wisdom.

If you are also passionate about this life-changing work, or maybe you are just curious how it works, no matter where your stage is, you are welcome!

Don’t be alone, Let's do it together……

Flexible like bamboo, or “rigid” like steel ?

As parents, we have been told every child needs boundaries, consistency, consequences, otherwise they will become spoiled, selfish, and wild. Normally these boundaries have no mutual respect, they are always strict, rigid, just like steel. But we all know steel is brittle and easy to break.

As bamboo, we would like to be a parent willing to negotiate, to adjust, to be curious, to repair. Bamboo looks soft, bendy, but it is strong.” - thoughts from untigering.

Traditional “power over” parenting for me is like steel, it constantly breaks us, and makes us feel like we are not doing a good job, we are not good enough.

But that’s not the truth. I believe that the real issue is that we’re not taught or shown how to be the kind of parents most of us longing to be so we end up slipping into the patterns that were ingrained in us in our own childhoods.

That’s why you need my help. Together we will nurture your growth, helping you become the gentle, compassionate, and peaceful parent your children need you to be. You will also be met with understanding, a non-judgemental openness and a supportive plan.

How It Works:

When you book a call with me, we’ll sit down together and talk so I can get a sense of what’s going on for you and your family and where I can offer support.

I’ll explain my approach and the options we have for working together. You can ask any questions you have and see what type of support would be the best fit for your life and schedule.

If it feels right to you, we can book our first session and get started. If it’s not a good fit, I will do my best to offer alternative resources or suggestions for support, wherever possible. There’s no pressure of any kind, simply an opportunity to see if we are a good fit to work together.

Let's Talk!

So that you can stop blaming yourself.

And instead take the first step towards becoming the kind of parent you know you can be.

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